6 tricks to help you communicate with harmful and unpleasant people

6 tricks to help you communicate with harmful and unpleasant people

We meet different people – kind, evil, well-mannered or arrogant. It is good when there is an opportunity not to communicate with an unpleasant subject. But there are times when a harmful person is a boss or colleague with whom you have to interact almost every day. And such communication turns into stress.

In dealing with harmful people, tactics and strategies will help.

Let’s take a look at 6 working tactics that will help you deal with aggressors and maintain inner peace.

The destructive influence of “tox”

Everyone will agree with me that communication with such a person is another “pleasure”. One of the parties is most often subjected to humiliating treatment. The “victim” has a strong desire to interrupt any communication. And this is the right decision. The position of not paying attention or pretending that everything is fine is obviously losing. The nasty person will still find a way to ruin everything.

Friends, here it is important to realize that we will never be able to remake anyone. But to change our attitude to the situation and apply the existing methods in our power. This must be done when it is impossible to hide or escape from the “toxin”, which literally corrodes and poisons everything around. I share strategies that should be used in dealing with harmful people.

Appeal only when absolutely necessary

Everything is simple here. You keep communication with “toxin” to a minimum. Even if he is your boss. You contact or make contact only when absolutely necessary. For example, the boss asks for clarification on the report. The same toxic “buddy” called, who finally decided to repay your debt. In both cases, it will no longer be possible to evade communication.

“Knight’s move”

I’ll give you an example right away. You have a difficult relationship with your mother. She tries to subjugate everyone, to rule. And with dad you have exactly the opposite – peace, friendship, chewing gum. Strengthen your good communication. Become even greater friends and allies. Such a strategy will strengthen your position and help you withstand confrontations.

Visualization

It happens that the conflict with the “tox” goes into an acute phase. Imagine him as a funny animal. Or imagine that there is a dense wall between you, through which destructive energy does not seep.

Autotraining

If it is clear that a conversation with a toxic person is inevitable, then a set of phrases will help you withstand: “I am strong in spirit. Nothing can piss me off. Words are just a collection of letters. No negativity will reach me.” Speak the wording before the meeting.

Energy Redirection Reception

The bottom line is to redirect the received energy from the aggressor back to him. You can use this trick at work or at home:

– What you all-??? fool!

– Yes, sometimes I behave extremely strange!

– You’re a loser and a loser! You never succeed in doing anything!

– Thank you for saying. Your opinion is important to me!

A few such phrases and the enemy is disoriented. He expects a completely different reaction from you. He needs your guilt, fear, anger or resentment. Understand, the aggressor person, in this way, is fueled by emotions. He needs them. And you leave him without “food”.

Don’t get emotionally involved in confrontation

I understand that it’s easy to say “don’t turn on” when the aggressor is “watering” you from head to toe. But it is important to master this technique. Again, you will not give your energy to the enemy and deprive him of his recharge. Stand confident and calm. Tell him, “I’ll continue when you’re done.” The main thing is not to fall emotionally into conflict and not look scared or guilty. Otherwise, you will lose.